This post is continuation of Selfless Deeds : Karma
The timer of Karma(Action with intent) keeps ticking as we are in action all the time. Be it selfish or selfless thoughts, decision or actions. Once that is sorted out, emotions come to picture like cloud.
Have you wondered if we handle situations and apply key decisions conciously?
On one occasion I was in a heated situation with a senior relative. I was provoked to speak against my family. I was asked to take decision spontaneously. My mind as usual started with hundreds of thoughts and questions to tackle that moment. At times emotions emerged too. Anger too visited me. Taking stock of that situation I was thinking of Karma – the Action, like what Arjuna faced in Kurukshetra. Since my mind was not in control, fortunately I tried to resolve it by ignoring the response for the words hurled at me. As it involves issue of a senior family member and if I heat up I could tear the conversation apart and make it worse. This is what something which was appreciated by another relative that you faced it well.
Then something stuck to me that I ignored and faced it at the same time. But the perspective changed for many.
Atleast now what I see is three ways to live a life or handle a situation or communicate –
- Tolerate whatever comes through.
- Be courageous, take responsibility and change it.
- Run Away or Ignore.
Example: Career, Marriage etc.
Note: In all situations you should be in control.
I may not be a master in all these as these need to be applied in different situation or different people. But one thing is for sure your decision making will have an impact on Selfless Duty only if you look long term to see what the situation may look like after it is applied. That far sightedness may only come after you are attentive and concious of situation or conversation. Plus tons of experience handling people.
Once the thought is decided you cannot take the intention back. Once you have taken the decision, you can review your self if that is right or wrong. But once action is done you cannot take it back. You only have to review the consequences of it and note it down in your memory. Apply it next time as a correction.
This is also Ambiguity of Duty (Dharma Sankat) when a decision is done. Sometimes we want to speak truth but we hestiatate because a question arises in us what if we hurt them ? What if we make them angry? We fear with this thought. And we take decision to speak false. According to Bhagwat Gita, Lord Shri Krishna says no matter what we need to speak the truth. That is the moment when we conquer our fears and overcome Ambiguity of Duty.
Do let me know your thoughts too.